Lesbians often do not think that I am gay enough or that I am pretending, or see my current relationship as me hiding my true self to blend in. I think, based on our conversations together, that he gets remarks like these more often than I do.
Our sexuality as a couple, too, has been made into a fetish by straight folks thinking that our relationship is a gateway to their forays with threesomes." "I reference ex-girlfriends in conversation when relevant, which is one way to address [invisibility] I guess.
Just before I met my current dude (4.5 years and counting), I was trading messages with a gorgeous lady vegan baker.When we moved into our new house, which is in a pretty normal sleepy community, it was almost Fourth of July and everyone had American Flags so we got a rainbow American Flag and put it out.I kind of held my breath waiting for neighbors to react, but they were like, 'Yay! ' Even the 75-year-old lady with the NRA stickers on her car was a huge fan." "One of my most jarring experiences as a bi woman was when, in a play group, one of the other mothers asked really earnestly, 'What would you guys do if your kid turned out to be gay?Since I was attracted to boys, I just assumed I was straight and ignored the attraction I felt for girls.I never gave myself the chance to think about it because I was safe where I was.