The first time will never be comfortable, but you have to make that step because it’s not something you can hide for ever. The reason why I showed it to that person was because they had made me feel more comfortable than anyone in my entire life.Which made me less afraid to take that step in showing my stoma.It covers sex and how our bodies work during sex, common sexual problems, talking with your partner, effects of medicines on sex, and has other helpful hints.It’s very comprehensive and to try to relay all the information here wouldn’t do it justice.But there was no fear in my body when I made the decision to take this step and thought that not having fear at that moment was rare.I wasn’t scared, which allowed me to know that they were the right person to show.After years of thinking before the surgery, having an ostomy would be the end of dating and that I would never be able to get to this point of showing someone my stoma, I was able to. Ostomy Secrets and other manufactures make underwear for men and women that not only support the ostomy but allow you to hide it during intimacy. To this day when being intimate with someone, I keep it hidden and not because I don’t want to show it to someone (Though if it’s early on I rather wait), but because I don’t want it waving around.It’s works out well for so many reasons to use this type of supportive underwear.
After a little while, I noticed that they didn’t care I had an ostomy hanging from my stomach. During that time we build it up in our heads, thinking we’re going to be so different.
Dating and sex are included in that blanket statement.
Along with thousands of other people, I’m living proof that you can meet someone after you’ve had your surgery and fall in love/be fallen in love with.
As I was in front of them for the first time I felt like there were a hundred people looking at me.
I didn’t know what to do, how to act, or what to say.